I was bullied twice. The first time was in Grade 1 by Ronnie. He’d take my pencils and other school stuff, hide it so I won’t be able to find when class starts. It went on for months. I just let him do his usual bullying. Until one day, I got his notebook and ripped it right on his face! The bullying stopped.
The second bullying happened when I was in first year high school. Charlie kept on disturbing and making fun of me while I silently study when the teachers are out. It went on for months. I just let him do his usual bullying. Until one day, I took his basket project to be submitted that day for Home Economics, I smacked it on his head! The bullying stopped.
To all my readers, I’m not writing this because I encourage violence. Even my son was bullied once but I didn’t tell him to hurt those boys. What I always tell my children, "DO NOT BE AFRAID. STAND UP IF YOU’RE RIGHT, IF THE SITUATION CALLS FOR IT, FIGHT IN THE PROPER VENUE!
I live a fairly quiet life. I don’t blog for a living. I blog because I like sharing my thoughts with the hope of sending some inspiration to readers who might need it.
Today, I’m blogging about a situation that calls attention. I let it pass for 2 days but these online bullies haven’t stopped and make it look like I am a liar. Here’s the whole story…
A couple of weeks ago, a certain Tony Ahn FB messaged me,“Hi Joy! Are you interested in dating?”. I did not reply plainly because I am married. I also know about foreign men scamming Pinays.
After a day or two, Tony Ahn messaged me again, “Hi! I sent you a friend request.” I checked his profile and saw that this Tony Ahn is friends among many of my co-bloggers so I accepted his friend request.
Last Wednesday, March 12, 2014…
Tony Ahn: Arpee told me, you were interested in writing for Two Sides of Dating. Is that Right?”
Me: I met Arpee once but we didn’t discuss about this. What is Two Sides of Dating?
Tony Ahn: It’s a blog I used to write with Earth Rullan.
To make sure that Tony Ahn is a not a "scammer" I messaged Arpee…
I didn't receive a reply so I messaged Arpee again with Tony Ahn's message...
I still didn't get a reply from Arpee so for transparency,
I made a group chat with Tony Ahn and Arpee, entitled Just to Clarify...
Tony Ahn left the conversation and unfriend me in FB.
I was left with no choice but ask Earth about Two sides of Dating, Tony Ahn and Arpee since she was mentioned by Tony Ahn and I'm not familiar with the three. I messaged her...
I went to bed early. Then came a reply from Arpee...
I was about to shut down my laptop to do my usual household chores when this popped...
I immediately messaged Arpee...
Arpee left the conversation and blocked me in FB.
I let this matter pass knowing that these people will do the right thing but Mr. Arpee Lazaro kept the post in his timeline with my name while he blocked me. What he did stirred speculations, putting my name on a bad light. Friends and co-bloggers started messaging me. I wasn't able to sleep the whole day but I let it pass again as I want peace and quiet for I am a woman, a mother of three and a wife who chooses to dwell on the happy side of life.
Then Mr. Tony Ahn sent a message to Earth stating that I am a liar, thus putting my name on a bad light. And because of this I can no longer keep my silence ...
To people who think they can just barge in my life and twist the truth, I say -
You may be more intelligent than I am,
You may be richer than I am but I'm not a coward.
I do not stab people at the back by blocking them
and writing and saying bad things about them afterwards,
I fight face to face and...
"I apologize when I'm wrong.
I fight when I'm right!"
-Joy Mendiola
March 14, 2014
(I'm not rich by the way but because of my Chinese blood, I'm always thought of as one, lol!)
Lumabas ang magigiting na lalaki, LABAN KUNG LABAN!!!
I will not allow anyone to ruin my quiet and joyful life, especially by people who have no respect for women. Women must be treated with respect. Men who mistreat women are not men. And I say to all those being bullied, stand up against bullies!!!
